Inspiration: Have you ever noticed that friends can be a big help when you are frustrated or feeling like a failure? Why is that? Well, friends want to take away your pain, but positive words or saying “not every one is good at X” are not always helpful in making your friend happy and healthy. As a friend, you can do better by asking questions and problem solving.
Take another look at this infographic about mindset; you can click on it to make it larger:
Write a poem to someone who needs support working through a set-back, a challenge, some frustration. The person needs your help to stick with it, find resources, get some help to work through it. You might ask him/her about what the struggle is teaching them, what they should do next, and who can help and how. Here are some ideas:
- A teammate is frustrated that he is not starting or getting the events he/she wants. What would you say or do to help him/her work through, stay with it?
- A friend throws his/her controller in frustration with a video game refusing to play it with you anymore. What would you say or do to help him/her work through it and try again — strategies, resources like how-to videos, watching you, etc.?
- A sibling just started a sport/hobby you already do well (e.g., soccer, violin, cooking, make-up, sketching) and is frustrated by not doing it as well as you. What would you say and do to help them see that it takes time to get better and that it is not about being like you but about developing their own way (or something like that)?
- You notice an elementary student reading in the library and then he/she throws the book down in frustration. What do you say/do? What strategies can you share to help him/her work through it.